I dont understand. I called my husband to tell him. When i asked if anything happened with this girl he said no and that he is very happily married to me. Instead of his boss he went with a female colleague. I believed him and asked him not to lend out his phone if they were going to use it to text girls. I was sickened that he was with us both in the same day. Maybe me as a naive, virgin girl and living with abuse and learning how to deal with abusive men when i was a child, formed me into what I am doing now. I know he is going to the barracks rooms at night but I cant prove anything. There are many hurtful circumstances which must have lead to the mistrust. enough to make you go and look? I was afraid to make wrong move just so he doesnt get angry or upset at me. He is a very handsome guy and doesnt look like a man who would smoke weedhe graduated college and has been with lots of women in the past but because Ive been cheated on and physically abused by my ex it has made me very paranoid that he is cheating on me. I can say that you know the answer to the question on whether he was faithful or not on your honeymoon. Okay, well here goes. It sounds a bit crowded, which is difficult for any relationship. BS, she was calling him all hrs of night, evening wow how stupid I was. The other women also sent several pictures of herself in sexy poses to him. Thanks. He says the new allegations are all in my head and that he does not know why Im accusing him of cheating on me when he loves me so much. He would only hug if he wanted sex. I would really like to hear some feed back..lol.. His job was hiring and I had a friend whom I had worked with previously looking for a job. So I was really surprised that he wants to stay together, especially when he seems to have another option. A year now and 3 months. What made it worse is he called me psychotic and said I had mental problems and I started to believe it. I confront him, he gets angry, gets the kids involved, they get upset, and he accuses me of ruining our family. I also have to agree with a statement you made above.I too think that marriage will slowly become a thing of the past and eventually will be considered old fasioned or obsolete. And what about my sister, do I tell her what her fiance is sending to my husband? When he came back I asked who was he talking with and he said the sister of someone we know well. Men who are risk-takers or easily sexually aroused are also more likely to wander; for women, relationship issues are stronger predictors of unfaithfulness. Hi all, I am with my husband since we were teenagers (17 years now) and married 7 years we have no kids. Take courage. Hes deleted texts to her but left hers. and he is having a friend for 5yrs, fighting involve.and you are saying you left the common house with the kids, When you argue with him you told him to leave, iam not blaming you but patient is always good thing. You stayed despite knowing he spent the night with another woman irrelevant of whether he had sex. Hi, im mindy im 19 and a newlywed we have been married for 3 months now, during the short period of time there has been phone calls from girls From chat lines and hes lied to me about this one girl on Facebook sayin shes a lesbian but yet he messages her saying whats up wit ur sexy a$$? 12? He still makes me feel like its my fault and that I dont need to know anything about it. Yet this is an awful way for you to treat yourself! Romance her like you would in the beginning, most men act like once they have the woman the work or effort is over. our first four years have been very challenging, we both drank alot and would argue alot, he never tried to get close to me emotionally, mentally,or physically. He didnt really show any type of compassion at all. This happened to a friend of mine recently and she waned to know what to do. etc. u deserve much better. Watch his reaction and be aware that he can talk himself out of a wet paper bag and then listen to your gut. I was ready to leave, but he drove me and my phone was dead. There are a lot of financial issues as well that could be keeping him here I think thats the only glue. We had small children at the time and I mananged to keep the family together and he changed his ways.Fast forward to 2008. Hire a private investigator. And the girl from the website i saw txt and emails *naughty pictures sent back and forth* and i did confront him about it because areound that time i found out i was pregnant. No he has a secret password for his phone. I feel that, instead of seeing how they react during, watch them afterwards. He does not deserve your love or loyalty. He always travelling, telling me he gonna go for work, but in the middle in the night he doesnt want to answer my call? HELLO. In his car, buy hidden gps tracker in amazon so you will check his location everytime. Your email address will not be published. I know it was a long shoot but knowadays with our cell phones being our food which we can not live with out if a husband is cheating on you. Im not sure what to do. Chris if you are 4 out of 5 of these things then perhaps you need to work on yourself and be more compassionate and understanding of the confusing mixed signals you are sending your wife. He always has me do different things or tried new things on me. That would be the mature and adult thing to do. i pushed him out from my flat and he kick the door and got broken. it seems as the women, we are the ones trying to be right, do right and we get stabbed in the back. He would text her saying Is it wrong that I think of you instead of my wife or hed say I need someone to cuddle with, you should cuddle with me I also found some photos of other girls in his phone who were naked. Only that he wants someone to take care of him like a mother. Cheating starts with friendly online flirtations, emails, texts. That doesnt mean that you cant take your failing marriage as an excuse to change up your appearance, but do it in a way to pamper yourself and make you feel more confident. Speaking of, he hadnt remembered my birthday in 5 years. Thank you for being here! I have been married for 3yrs now, i love my husband so much dat i can even kill any woman dat come close 2 him. I found texts from a local number talking about hooking up. !.Last night we had another fight and I relised that this is never going to change. Why should you ask a girl to send you a picture of herself when she has tons of them to everybody to see? I decided to check his cell phone records and when he walked up behind me and asked why was I on our wireless account. I just dont know what to do and what to believe its killing me. It sounds like he did do something dodgy that night or he would of told you where he went but I suggest you talk to him very calmly and just say that you wont get mad you just need to know if hes done it again because youd like to work things out for the sake of your children if he admits or not you should get couples counselling. Is this still cheating? I just found out my husband of 7 years cheated on me while I was pregnant with our first child. I told him the the guy is waiting on me to send him money and he has his number and the girls number and I will be able to get any information. He has continued to reject me physically, and still to this day defends her when her name comes up I know that I am not wrong, I know that even IF( big IF) he never slept with her, he had an intense emotional relationship with her, that superceeded ours by far, and that alone has ruined our relationship and our marriage, and I cannot let go of the it, I need to know the truth, and why! Its hidden so he wont see. That instinct being so strong that it gets us into our own set of troubles just as much as your need to have multiple lovers. (The lube was apparently so he could get some alone time)?? I would like to also say he has been clean and sober for 1 year.. And that is something to be proud of.. They talked and he said he told her that he would stop by when he was working if he could. At first he said he asked for my forgiveness and since Iam very blessed, I said I can not just forgive out of the blue. He calls me during the day and seems to want to be with me every second. Usually, the women posting describe behavior from their man that makes its even quite obvious that he is cheating. I came from a broken home all my life I dreamed of a loving big family. We didnt have much of an emotional connection, I just chalked it up to the fact that is didnt talk much to many people anyway. I call bullsh**. Im only 20, his supporting me, I dont have a job because he doesnt want me to have one, Im a stay home pregnant mom. Dear H, Yes, who did you hire?I walked into my husbands office unexpectedly and saw his phone under a file. Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself? I want to believe he still loves me but it is really hard. Im devastated. Let me share this with you TeresaI had a wife like you with chronic back pain and surgeries and all that. Men who cheat dont walk around with a sign saying Im having an affair they are often good, upstanding, respectable men who are missing something in their marriages. Use the emotional judo of knowing that most affairs burn out and decide for yourself how long you will . I also later learned she was his ex, and he had at one point during when they were dating wanted to marry her. Im thinking about just giving up and not ever bringing it up again. Hi, my husband has changed a lot. It was as if I was a chore or a roommate. I day later my husband had a pass code on his phone. Hes no longer as sweet as before. Do you respect yourself enough to leave him? He now works about 2 hours away from home and doesnt even stay home most of the time. Let's pretend I have proof that your husband never had an affair and that this woman is just a super awesome work friend who makes him laugh. He won't give you useless lies like, they were a friend, or that the other person needed them. Like if there is an excuse for that. I was able to read those because I knew his password. Both men and women are vulnerable to temptation and mistakesand thats where trust comes in. men do not want to father as many kids as possible, and they know that if they get a girl preg theyll be found out, and will have to pay child support. I thought we were okay. https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-forgive-and-trust-him-after-he-cheated-on-you/. He excepted. And good men get cheated all around and you fail to see them when you meet them so maybe you should stop blaming nature and men and start figuring out whats wrong with you. He always treated me like a princess, and like I was the most incredible thing thatd happened too him. Jan, you are correct in a round about way. he also told me she did say he likes him but continues this. I also found other interesting searches. Jul 22, 2012 at 4:39 PM. Though, as petty as it may appear, I have to defend myself by saying he worked away for weeks at a time and when he did come home, there was a lot of partying, etc. Tip #1 Casually Discuss The Topic. But didnt sleep with her. During our marriage 3 years ago he got and 18 year pregnant, I stayed with him as long as I could. If you step back and rise up above the pain for a moment, you will see your anger turn to pity. Its on you at this point to get out of this. Recently my husband is visiting Hong Kong. The advice i wil give to you guys stay focus and think deep in your heart what you want if you want to suffer for the rest of your live or you want trust, bright future ahead. This is a lot of things he has done but emotionally in other ways he can be a very good man. Well fast forward to about 2 months ago. He was a tall good looking man with a great personalty. yes he is cheating with your friend .Your instincts are dead on .You need to confront your friend and end the friendship with her as well .If you cant work it out with your husband divorce is a great option .Based on the information you have posted here ,your husband is a serial cheater .Men like to make u think that you are the crazyone but you are intuitive and intelligent enough to see what is going on .It is up to you to love your self ,not lower your standards and find youa good man that will treat you like a queen . Does not keeping it a secret not lying about cheating make it easier for her to understand? Hes hiding sh!t, hes lying to you and girlfriend, hes cheating on you. He runs his own company, and recently hired a bookkeeper at his company, I once saw a whatsapp message from the new lady (bookkeeper) to him with red lips (a kiss emoticon) when I confronted him about it, he said she again, sent another message apologizing about the mistake, that the message wasnt meant for him, I believed him. Ive been praying for seven years for God to confirm the feelings Ive been having that my husband has cheated on me, and havent received an answer. you were right in your approach of not asking him directly, this could bring to the end of your relationship, no joke. I dont think its bad if a guy gives you negative comments. When I suggested that monogomy was unnatural by no means was I trying to imply that what I was suggesting was factual or applied to everybody. I am sorry to hear about your situation. my husband gets mad when i ask him to do anything, i am 5 1/2 months pregnant and high risk. I have been in the same relationship for over 16 years we have 3 children together 16, 11, and 6. So I asked him again and told him I wanted an direct answer. When i confronted him about it he got so angry. I do not think I will ever be But life goes on and Im curious to see how this turns out, Keep you head up. He wants me to leave because he doesnt support me anymore and he doesnt want to live with me anymore. I dunno who to talk to or just confront him cos he might leave me. He would say good morning and goodnight. o.k. Available on Amazon or most bookstores Kindle or paperback! Do a mans friends have anything to do with his willingness to cheat? I confronted him with findings. I am sure because his patience is now wearing thin from all my accusations and worries. Ive been through it myself. 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